“Alice House saved my life. I don’t know how else to say it. I believe he would have eventually killed me if I stayed. I knew I had to go, but didn’t know where I could go and be safe or how I was even going to pay for it. I was scared all the time. This program provided me with a plan to get out and a safe place to go. Alice House helped me get my financial situation together in a way that I could support myself and my three children. They came with me to all of my court appointments, which I don’t think I would have been able to see it through without them.
“I learned so much here. I learned to stop blaming myself for his actions. I learned I am a lot stronger than I thought possible. I learned that it’s OK for me to just leave when a situation is making me feel unsafe. I have to deal with my ex because of our daughter. I know now not to try and talk to him while he is angry. I don’t deserve to be talked to the way he talks to me when he is angry. I don’t remember the last time I didn’t feel nervous to come home. Now that I know how much better it feels to have home be a safe place to come home to, I will never let myself live another way.
"This program showed me that I was not alone. It helped me accept that trauma was a part of me, not who I was. It helped me grow and know that it is OK to be a voice for yourself and to speak up. Since taking this program, I have felt something grow inside of me… I think it is acceptance and it feels empowering. I owe that to this program. I wish all women could have a chance to take this program." (Mother, age 42)
In 2008 I left a 10-year abusive relationship. I thank God everyday for being alive. Not only for my own safety but for my daughter who is no longer afraid. When I left my abuser, I was in an ambulance unconscious and this was not the first time but thanks to everyone for supporting me, it will be the last.
Susan is a twenty-five-year-old single mother with an enviable commitment to improving her life and the lives of her two young daughters. Susan courageously made the decision to leave her abusive partner and seek support from Alice Housing, which provides safe and affordable housing for women and children fleeing family violence.